Triggers, Accessibility Needs, Discomfort, and Conflict

tobitastic:

Or How Jack Halberstam is Playing The Victim and Dismissing Real Concerns by Crying “Reverse-Abelism”

A few days ago Jack Halberstam - Or Jock Halberslam as I am tempted to refer to him from now on - released an article about how the “triggered generation” of millennials are preventing any real work from getting done because we are just whining about minor unimportant things. But for some reason he chose two examples that run counter to his point to focus on: accessibility needs and trans women working with others to reduce transmisogyny.

So to begin with, yes there are folks who misuse the word “trigger” when they really mean “I’m uncomfortable and I want everyone to cater to my needs and desires immediately.” And yes there is a fixation among some to try and point out every slightly oppressive thing others are doing as if that scores them points as a better activist.

That said, the article doesn’t make a distinction between folks who are misusing the concept of being triggered this way and people who are actually being triggered. It encourages people to dismiss or even mock accessibility needs. Yet Jack depicts people with allergies or MCS as yelling and biting someone’s head off over minor things that don’t matter. But as someone with MCS, I can tell you it isn’t minor. It can and will make me very sick, yet despite that I’ve *never* yelled at someone for smoking or wearing perfume because I’m often quite afraid to speak up for my needs.

He isn’t actually trying to discourage a victim mentality, he just wants everyone to see him and others who have to listen to our accessibility needs as the real victims. Considering how much pressure there is already to keep quiet about accessibility needs this is really messed up. I’ve often chosen to get sick (even once losing my voice) because I was afraid to speak up and create an imposition. 

One time I hosted an event and created a scent free policy as a requirement of my being able to host it. I got hate mail for days. People demanded their right to wear perfumes that would make me too sick to give my presentation. Others demanded I take some unknown shots that would solve the problem. A few even threatened to boycott. That’s the behavior Jack is encouraging when he tells people that my accessibility needs are minor and that even my timid attempts to get them met are an affront to those I’m asking a minor accommodation from. 

The other thing, too, is that I see it as very common for any criticism or concerns that trans women raise to quickly get interpreted as over-emotional tantrums and screaming at people. I actually was very involved in the conversations around Trannyshack and it was very positive, cordial, and constructive. The organizers of T-shack thanked us for our input and designated our organization the beneficiary of their show. We gave them an award. Everyone was happy and thought it went great. Then a bunch of bystanders simply assumed that we must have strong armed them into it through whining about being triggered. Folks who weren’t involved in the conversation wrote about how terrible trans women are for censoring and being PC police. Hecklina from T-Shack wrote up her perspective trying to clarify that wasn’t what happened and that in fact she got way more pressure from cis fans demanding she not “give in to the trans women word police” but her words never got the same reach or publicity as the folks complaining about emotionally reactive trans women.

The fact that Jack relies so heavily on this example, when in reality no one was complaining about being triggered but instead were having a reasonable conversation between organizers about how the event would be received and how to strategically frame it to best benefit the community, really undermines his point. Yes, a lot of the “triggered generation” he’s talking about are not trans women, but it really makes me wonder how much of a problem “trigger whiners” are and how much of it is a matter of other people characterizing someone that way in order to dismiss them.

Toby Hill-Meyer launches Doing It Online

queer-porn:

Toby Hill-Meyer launches Doing It Online

jiz-kimberly-84Today marks the launch of the newest addition to the TroubleFilms web network, DoingItOnline.Com.

DoingItOnline.com, a collaboration between Handbasket Productions and Trouble Films, offers fresh, trans female-focused content created and curated by filmmaker and activist Tobi Hill-Meyer.

“In the media lately, it seems like everyone gets to have their say about trans women’s sexuality. Everyone…

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tobitastic:

So this happened yesterday. It was the first thing he said to me, with no other context - this is the entirety of the comment. So I was kinda taken aback by the extremity of it and didn’t know how to respond. Ultimately, I decided it was a badge of honor.  
Still, I desperately wondered who exactly is Johnny Barnhart, and where is this coming from? Looking at his other publicly posted comments, he seems to think of himself as feminist and fights for abortion rights and gay marriage.  He sports an HRC logo on his facebook. And apparently during his freshman rush he won a yelling contest or something.
A couple hours later he told me he was “obviously joking” and that I would live longer if I didn’t take things so seriously when they are meant to be humorous. Which was odd because this whole exchange was as a response to a joke I had posted making fun of sexism that he apparently took offense to.
Being the recipient of such a blatant and un-obscured misogynist slam - whether in jest or not - is kinda something I want to put in my bio.  I even told him that and asked if he had a title or organizational affiliation I should list when I quote him, but he didn’t respond so I’m just going with that yelling contest he won.  It has a pretty nice ring to it for an introduction for my next performance or something, don’t you think:
"Tobi Hill-Meyer is a groundbreaking filmmaker, named one of the most significant queer women of 2010, and according to the UT Tri-Delt’s Most Able Yell Leader, is one of the women all men should avoid.  Let’s give a big hand for Tobi!"


Thanxxx & <3 <3 <3 for making me almost spit coffee on my keyboard, darling.

tobitastic:

So this happened yesterday. It was the first thing he said to me, with no other context - this is the entirety of the comment. So I was kinda taken aback by the extremity of it and didn’t know how to respond. Ultimately, I decided it was a badge of honor.  

Still, I desperately wondered who exactly is Johnny Barnhart, and where is this coming from? Looking at his other publicly posted comments, he seems to think of himself as feminist and fights for abortion rights and gay marriage.  He sports an HRC logo on his facebook. And apparently during his freshman rush he won a yelling contest or something.

A couple hours later he told me he was “obviously joking” and that I would live longer if I didn’t take things so seriously when they are meant to be humorous. Which was odd because this whole exchange was as a response to a joke I had posted making fun of sexism that he apparently took offense to.

Being the recipient of such a blatant and un-obscured misogynist slam - whether in jest or not - is kinda something I want to put in my bio.  I even told him that and asked if he had a title or organizational affiliation I should list when I quote him, but he didn’t respond so I’m just going with that yelling contest he won.  It has a pretty nice ring to it for an introduction for my next performance or something, don’t you think:

"Tobi Hill-Meyer is a groundbreaking filmmaker, named one of the most significant queer women of 2010, and according to the UT Tri-Delt’s Most Able Yell Leader, is one of the women all men should avoid.  Let’s give a big hand for Tobi!"

Thanxxx & <3 <3 <3 for making me almost spit coffee on my keyboard, darling.

Tobi just very sweetly reblogged my Girl Talk note. I feel the need to say that my first-ever Girl Talk piece (back in 2009) was a love letter/thank you letter for her about our relationship.

You know that saying “An army of lovers can never fail”? I would like to amend that to “An army of ex-lovers can never fail.” At least for Tobi. ;)

I love you, dear.  <333

tobitastic:

SF Bay Area folks!  Girl Talk is Tomorrow (maybe today by the time you read this).  This is an amazing show and you should definitely see it if you get the chance.

queershoulder:

I am so very excited to announce…

Girl Talk 2013!

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Now in its fifth year, Girl Talk is a critically acclaimed multi-media performance show promoting dialogue about relationships of all kinds between queer transgender women, queer cisgender women, and genderqueer people. Queer cis women, queer trans women, and genderqueer people are allies, friends, support systems, lovers, and partners to each other every day — from activism that includes everything from Take Back the Night to Camp Trans; to supporting each other in having “othered” bodies in a world that is obsessed with idealized body types; to loving, having sex, and building family with each other in a world that wants us to disappear. At Girl Talk, trans and cis women and genderqueer artists create a wide range of artistic work about their relationships of all kinds – sexual and romantic, friendships, and chosen and blood family. Join us for a night of performance and conversation dedicated to building sisterhood and queer community for ALL women.


June 27

Girl Talk
Curated by: Gina de Vries, Elena Rose, & Julia Serano
Show Location: African-American Arts & Culture Complex (762 Fulton Street @ Webster, San Francisco)
Time: 7:30pm
Price: $12 – $20 sliding scale online; $15 – $20 at the door. (A limited number of Nobody Turned Away Tickets are available by writing to Gina at queershoulder[@]gmail[.]com, and a few work-trade for tix positions might also become available.)
Web Home: http://queerculturalcenter.org/NQAF/performance13/girl-talk/
Buy Tickets:
http://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/377312
Facebook Event Page
: https://www.facebook.com/events/331871970271565
"Like" Girl Talk on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/GirlTalkShow
Twitter:
@queershoulder (Gina de Vries) and @JuliaSerano (Julia Serano).


ARTISTS’ BIOS

sDominikaBednarska
Dominika Bednarska
holds a PhD in English and Disability Studies from U.C. Berkeley, and her new book of poetry, Smothered Breath, is forthcoming from Tulip Pulp Press. Her writing has appeared in The Bellevue Literary Review, Petrichor Machine, Blast Furnace, A Bad Penny Review, B (A Barbie Anthology), Journey to Crone, Avatar Review, Storm Cellar, Palimpsest, Muddy River Poetry Review, Wordgathering, Ghosting the Atom: Reflections After the Bomb, What I Want From You: An Anthology of East Bay Lesbian Poets, Cripping Femme, The Culture of Efficiency: Technology in Everyday Life, and Nobody Passes: Rejecting the Rules of Gender and Conformity, a Lambda nominee. Her show My Body Love Story kicked off the National Queer Arts Festival in 2012. For more information, go to dominikabednarskaspeaks.blogspot.com or become a fan on Facebook.

sGinadeVries
Gina de Vries
is a genderqueer femme, a queer Paisano, a devout pervert, and a writer, performer, activist, and cultural worker living, writing, and loving in San Francisco. Ze is the founder and co-curator (with Elena Rose and Julia Serano) of Girl Talk, and is thrilled to see the show going strong in its fifth year. Gina has performed, taught, and lectured everywhere from chapels to leatherbar backrooms to the Ivy Leagues to community colleges. Her university appearances include Harvard, Yale, Reed, The Pacific School of Religion, UW-Madison, and Hampshire. Ze is the founder and facilitator of Sex Workers’ Writing Workshop, a writing class for current & former sex workers at San Francisco’s Center for Sex & Culture (where she also serves on the Advisory Board).

Gina’s publications include That’s Revolting!, Bound to Struggle, Baby Remember My Name, The San Francisco Bay Guardian, $pread: illuminating the sex industry, Curve, Coming & Crying, Take Me There: Trans & Genderqueer Erotica, The Revolution Starts at Home, and Why Are Faggots So Afraid of Faggots. Ze is currently pursuing her Master of Fine Arts in Fiction Writing at San Francisco State University, where ze is at work on How To Have A Body, a book of experimental prose about, well, how to have a body. Find out more at ginadevries.com, and keep track of hir on the daily at queershoulder.tumblr.com and howtohaveabody.tumblr.com.

sDavEnd

DavEnd is a tenderhearted, genderqueer, accordion wielding songwriter, performing artist and designer based in San Francisco.  DavEnd has released two studio albums (How To Hold Your Own Hand, Fruits Commonly Mistaken For Vegetables) and for the past 6 years, has been touring extensively in the U.S., performing at queer teen centers, theatres, festivals, colleges, and backyards. Between tours, Ms. End designs costumes, and most recently has been producing a new musical, costume designing and dancing in production numbers for songwriter Kimya Dawson, appearing in Taylor Mac’s epic 5 hour play “The Lily’s Revenge” and touring the US with Sister Spit. DavEnd’s current project, “Fabulous Artistic Guys Get Overtly Traumatized Sometimes: The Musical!”, brings together the worlds of music and radical performance art in a theatrical extravaganza, exploring the effects of heterosexism and street harassment on the development of queer and trans identity. Photo: Photo: Amber Gregory

hardy_Tara
Tara Hardy
is the working-class queer femme poet who writes and teaches in Seattle, Washington. She is the founder and current creative director of Bent, a writing institute for LGBTIQ people based in Seattle. She is the writer-in-residence at Richard Hugo House in Seattle, and an alumnae of Hedgebrook. In 2002, she was elected by the people and named by the city council as Seattle’s Poet Populist, or poet of the people, and has appeared on seven National Poetry Slam stages. She holds an MFA from Vermont College in fiction writing, and an MSW from the University of Michigan in community organizing. Tara is a daughter of the United Auto Workers, and worked in the Battered Women’s Movement for 15 years. She has toured the United States with Michelle Tea in the Stromboli’s Island show, as well as with Oratrix, an all-girl, all-queer Seattle-based spoken word troupe. She is a member of the Bullhorn Collective, and has performed with the Rolling Thunder Democracy Tour, Vancouver’s Rock for Choice, various Sister Spit shows, the Washington Poet’s Association’s Burning Word festival, Portland’s Youth Pride, San Francisco’s Harvey Milk Institute, and at the Minneapolis Orpheum Theater on the National Poetry Slam team finals stage. Tara’s work appears in Without a Net, Sex and Single Girls, Fusion, Blythe House Quarterly, Brazen, Switched-on-Gutenberg, and her self-published chapbooks Vs and Rant-some. Recordings of her work can be found on Vox Populi Live (the best of the Seattle Poetry Festival), the Seattle Poetry Slam Live CD, and her self-produced CD Dirty River.

sCarolQueen
Dr. Carol Queen
is a writer and cultural sexologist with a Ph.D. in human sexuality. She is a noted essayist whose work has appeared in dozens of anthologies. Her essay collection, Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture, was published in 1997 and reissued in 2002; it is read in university classes across America. Her erotic stories can be found in several Best American Erotica volumes, among many other anthologies; her erotic novel, The Leather Daddy and the Femme, was published in 1998 and won a Firecracker Alternative Book Award the following year. A “director’s cut” edition with new material came out in 2003. Her first book, Exhibitionism for the Shy, published in 1995, explores issues of erotic self-esteem and enhancement and was reissued with new material in 2009. She is co-editor of the anthologies Best Bisexual Erotica (volumes One and Two), Sex Spoken Here, Switch Hitters, and PoMoSexuals; the latter won a Lambda Literary Award in 1998. She’s also edited Whipped! and two volumes of 5 Minute Erotica, short-short erotic fiction.

Queen is the founding director of the Center for Sex & Culture in San Francisco (www.sexandculture.org) and works as staff sexologist and curator of the Antique Vibrator Museum at Good Vibrations, the women-founded sex toy and bookstore in San Francisco, where she has worked since 1990; she blogs for the Good Vibrations web magazine at www.goodvibes.com. She has addressed numerous scholarly and professional conferences, including the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, the International Condom Conference, the International Conference on Prostitution, and the International Conference on Pornography; she frequently addresses college as well as general and specialized audiences. In February 2009 she debated the question of promiscuity (“Virtue or vice?”) for the Oxford Union at Oxford University, England.

Carol Queen is active on behalf of progressive sex education and sexual minority issues. Perhaps most closely affiliated with the bisexual and sex work communities, she has been speaking publicly about non-mainstream sexualities, from lesbian to leather, for over 35 years. Her perspective in addressing sexual diversity incorporates personal experience, accurate sex information, and informed cultural commentary. For more information (including CV and bibliography) see her website: www.carolqueen.com.

NEW ELENA ROSE
Elena Rose
, a Filipina-Ashkenazic mixed-class trans lesbian mestiza, rode stories out of rural Oregon and hasn’t stopped making words since.  Raised as a curandera troublemaker, she writes online as “Little Light,” travels the country as a preacher and poet, and has dedicated herself to the labor of radical love, monster theology, and justice for those who live at the edges.

In her third year as “Girl Talk” co-curator and fifth as a performer, Rose has also sweet-talked bloody microphones with the Speak! Radical Women of Color Media Collective, Seattle’s TumbleMe Productions, the Bay’s own Mangos With Chili, and in sold-out shows up and down the Pacific coast.  Her writing has been featured in Aorta and Make/shift magazines and everywhere from law school classrooms to bathroom mirrors, and her first book, “Mountain of Myrrh,” is forthcoming from Dinah Press.  She lives, works, and attends seminary in the East Bay, and haunts abandoned places on the weekends.”

sJuliaSerano
Julia Serano
is an Oakland, California-based writer, performer, and co-curator of Girl Talk. She is best known for her 2007 book Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity, which garnered rave reviews—The Advocate placed it on their list of “Best Non-Fiction Transgender Books,” and readers of Ms. Magazine ranked it #16 on their list of the “100 Best Non-Fiction Books of All Time.” Her other writings have appeared in anthologies (including Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape, Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation and Word Warriors: 30 Leaders in the Women’s Spoken Word Movement) and in feminist, queer, pop culture and literary magazines and websites such as Bitch Magazine, AlterNet.org, Out, Ms. Magazine blog, Feministing.com, and make/shift.

Julia has gained notoriety in feminist, queer and transgender circles for her unique insights into gender, and her writings have been used as teaching materials in queer and gender studies courses across North America. Her second full-length book, tentatively titled Excluded: Making Feminist and Queer Movements More Inclusive, is slated to be published by Seal Press in the Fall of 2013. juliaserano.com

sJosTruitt
Jos Truitt
is a Boston native currently living in the Bay Area. She is an Editor at the popular blog Feministing.com. Jos has worked for the reproductive health, rights and justice movements as a student at Hampshire College and a national organizer in Washington, DC. She has spoken and trained at numerous national conferences and college campuses about trans issues, reproductive justice, blogging, feminism, and grassroots organizing. Jos is currently pursuing an MFA in Printmaking and an MA in the History and Theory of Contemporary Art at San Francisco Art Institute.


tobitastic:

Hey folks, one of the couples cast for Doing it Again had to back out and we’re looking for a trans woman and cis guy pairing to take their place.  The travel budget has already been spent twice over, so we’re hoping to find someone who would be available in the next month or two, preferably in the Pacific Northwest area but we will consider elsewhere as well.  At this point, no single cis men have applied, so matching two people may not be possible.

If you’re interested and fit this criteria, please fill out the application at http://goo.gl/Haxiq and feel free to email me directly at Tobi at Handbasket Production dot com.

Also, for anyone else who would like to be notified of our future casting opportunities, please sign up for our Casting Announcements email list at http://handbasketproductions.com/mailinglist


Signal-boost!

courtneytrouble:

tobitastic:

odofemi:

TRANS ROMANTIC
Can I take a moment to tell you all about something amazing? In recent years, the place of trans women in pornography has been a topic of hot debate within trans communities, and a site of some awesome activism. Some of this activism has included Tobi Hill-Meyer’s seminal Doing it Ourselves: Trans Women Porn Project, which featured queer trans women in a feminist porn context. That movie brought a lot of issues around transmisogyny to light, and queer trans women have been making serious inroads into the feminist porn world as a result.
But what about straight trans women? So often trans activism focuses on one specific trans experience: that of a mostly white, exclusively queer kind of trans person. Straight trans women have been left out of the conversation. And when we talk about straight trans woman porn, we can see only typical tranny and shemale porn produced for a cis male gaze.
Well, legendary feminist pornographer Nica Noelle has changed that. She has started a new studio called Trans Romantic that creates porn specifically catering to the desires of straight trans women and other trans women who like cis men. This is stuff made for a trans woman’s gaze. The first title in this series, Forbidden Lovers, has a plotline about a cis man taking his trans woman girlfriend home to meet his parents, before she’s disclosed being trans. When she does disclose, they have amazing and hot sex! The non-sex parts are super cute and really romantic and lovely. Dreamy!
The great thing about this is that the men are really hot! Tranny and shemale porn are stigmatized industries, meaning that male performers often won’t be able to return to straight or gay porn if they do tranny or shemale porn, and that results in usually really unattractive/boring guys doing it with super babely trans ladies. Nica Noelle has found REALLY HOT GUYS who are excited to be part of these films! This is a big deal in the porn world.
I absolutely loved Forbidden Lovers, and I’m not even straight. Want to support things for trans women and not just your tiny bubble of acceptably queer ones? SUPPORT TRANS ROMANTIC!!
Edited to add: Also! These movies are produced with plotlines that show trans women as not only objects of desire, but SUBJECTS OF LOVING RELATIONSHIPS. That is hugely revolutionary.

I’m really excited to see this and would love to get a chance to check it out sometime soon.  I can in the notes on this post that some folks are critiquing it for various reasons and I’d just like to put this in the context of trans-positive work coming out of the mainstream industry.  Yeah, it’s inevitably going to have some issues that are problems in more anti-oppression spaces.  It’s not currently possible to get rid of all that and still distribute (let alone produce) in the mainstream industry.  But the shift towards trans women taking more control in the production of mainstream porn and actually creating it with trans women in mind as an audience — that is a mind blowingly amazing progression and deserves to be celebrated!
Also, I’ll mention that in my own productions I have been frustrated at not having been able to include straight trans women.  In my current project I’ve made a significant outreach effort to include more trans women with men (particularly cis men, as I haven’t had that in a film before) and I’m excited about the turnout.  And just like how recruiting through mainstream channels has it’s problems, recruiting through feminist/queer porn channels has it’s problems too.  One of them is that there are significantly fewer straight trans women (or other trans women involved with men, particularly cis men).  It’s made this outreach difficult.  Noting that, I’m really excited to see this project moving forward and can’t wait to see what else Trans Romantic produces.
(And btw, while the casting for trans women with cis partners has closed, I’m still casting for trans women with trans partners and am particularly looking for more trans women with trans men.  If you’re complaining about trans men not being involved in Trans Romantic, let me point you to my casting call: http://blog.handbasketproductions.com/?p=290)

Adding to comments, this maybe hasn’t even been mentioned, but nica has no clue about actual trans issues. I spoke with her personally before she started these films, and she told me how her brother “who is gay” only dates “drag queens and ladyboys” and how she wanted to do “romantic shemale porn” - and then got confused when I said “you mean trans women” - she had to have me clarify what “trans women” meant (I think she thought I meant ftm.)
Also, that photo looks heavily photoshopped - did she alter the womans face and body? It looks a little blurry/painted.
Also, she is very blatantly against sex work, and has publicly shamed escorts for “bringing stds into the industry. ” and her arguement got worse as people questioned her logic. She Insists that she only wants to work with performers that are “loyal to the industry” and “classy”, not whores and prostitutes. So that sucks.
She did hire a drew deveaux, a trans woman, in an all-girl lesbian feature (where theyall role play that they really are straight, but drunk…) - but I’m pretty sure she wasnt aware that drew was trans until after the film was made, at which point in her defense, she tried to stand up to her distributor, who had anti-trans policies in thier contract. But that was the end of that collaboration.
She is not a rad woman. At least not how I see it. Movies like this do seem really, really awesome and badly needed, but I regret that this woman may not be the straight porn savior we are looking for.
I am excited to see tobi’s new work, and have myself been shooting some scenes between trans women and men. There needs to be more, and I wish someone like tristan taormino or nina Hartley would do straight trans-inclusive features.
(I’m responding on my phone using speech to text. Revised for typos as much as I could, but plz forgive any oversights.)

Reblogging for ALL the commentary. This is an important conversation.

courtneytrouble:

tobitastic:

odofemi:

TRANS ROMANTIC

Can I take a moment to tell you all about something amazing? In recent years, the place of trans women in pornography has been a topic of hot debate within trans communities, and a site of some awesome activism. Some of this activism has included Tobi Hill-Meyer’s seminal Doing it Ourselves: Trans Women Porn Project, which featured queer trans women in a feminist porn context. That movie brought a lot of issues around transmisogyny to light, and queer trans women have been making serious inroads into the feminist porn world as a result.

But what about straight trans women? So often trans activism focuses on one specific trans experience: that of a mostly white, exclusively queer kind of trans person. Straight trans women have been left out of the conversation. And when we talk about straight trans woman porn, we can see only typical tranny and shemale porn produced for a cis male gaze.

Well, legendary feminist pornographer Nica Noelle has changed that. She has started a new studio called Trans Romantic that creates porn specifically catering to the desires of straight trans women and other trans women who like cis men. This is stuff made for a trans woman’s gaze. The first title in this series, Forbidden Lovers, has a plotline about a cis man taking his trans woman girlfriend home to meet his parents, before she’s disclosed being trans. When she does disclose, they have amazing and hot sex! The non-sex parts are super cute and really romantic and lovely. Dreamy!

The great thing about this is that the men are really hot! Tranny and shemale porn are stigmatized industries, meaning that male performers often won’t be able to return to straight or gay porn if they do tranny or shemale porn, and that results in usually really unattractive/boring guys doing it with super babely trans ladies. Nica Noelle has found REALLY HOT GUYS who are excited to be part of these films! This is a big deal in the porn world.

I absolutely loved Forbidden Lovers, and I’m not even straight. Want to support things for trans women and not just your tiny bubble of acceptably queer ones? SUPPORT TRANS ROMANTIC!!

Edited to add: Also! These movies are produced with plotlines that show trans women as not only objects of desire, but SUBJECTS OF LOVING RELATIONSHIPS. That is hugely revolutionary.

I’m really excited to see this and would love to get a chance to check it out sometime soon.  I can in the notes on this post that some folks are critiquing it for various reasons and I’d just like to put this in the context of trans-positive work coming out of the mainstream industry.  Yeah, it’s inevitably going to have some issues that are problems in more anti-oppression spaces.  It’s not currently possible to get rid of all that and still distribute (let alone produce) in the mainstream industry.  But the shift towards trans women taking more control in the production of mainstream porn and actually creating it with trans women in mind as an audience — that is a mind blowingly amazing progression and deserves to be celebrated!

Also, I’ll mention that in my own productions I have been frustrated at not having been able to include straight trans women.  In my current project I’ve made a significant outreach effort to include more trans women with men (particularly cis men, as I haven’t had that in a film before) and I’m excited about the turnout.  And just like how recruiting through mainstream channels has it’s problems, recruiting through feminist/queer porn channels has it’s problems too.  One of them is that there are significantly fewer straight trans women (or other trans women involved with men, particularly cis men).  It’s made this outreach difficult.  Noting that, I’m really excited to see this project moving forward and can’t wait to see what else Trans Romantic produces.

(And btw, while the casting for trans women with cis partners has closed, I’m still casting for trans women with trans partners and am particularly looking for more trans women with trans men.  If you’re complaining about trans men not being involved in Trans Romantic, let me point you to my casting call: http://blog.handbasketproductions.com/?p=290)

Adding to comments, this maybe hasn’t even been mentioned, but nica has no clue about actual trans issues. I spoke with her personally before she started these films, and she told me how her brother “who is gay” only dates “drag queens and ladyboys” and how she wanted to do “romantic shemale porn” - and then got confused when I said “you mean trans women” - she had to have me clarify what “trans women” meant (I think she thought I meant ftm.)

Also, that photo looks heavily photoshopped - did she alter the womans face and body? It looks a little blurry/painted.

Also, she is very blatantly against sex work, and has publicly shamed escorts for “bringing stds into the industry. ” and her arguement got worse as people questioned her logic. She Insists that she only wants to work with performers that are “loyal to the industry” and “classy”, not whores and prostitutes. So that sucks.

She did hire a drew deveaux, a trans woman, in an all-girl lesbian feature (where theyall role play that they really are straight, but drunk…) - but I’m pretty sure she wasnt aware that drew was trans until after the film was made, at which point in her defense, she tried to stand up to her distributor, who had anti-trans policies in thier contract. But that was the end of that collaboration.

She is not a rad woman. At least not how I see it. Movies like this do seem really, really awesome and badly needed, but I regret that this woman may not be the straight porn savior we are looking for.

I am excited to see tobi’s new work, and have myself been shooting some scenes between trans women and men. There needs to be more, and I wish someone like tristan taormino or nina Hartley would do straight trans-inclusive features.

(I’m responding on my phone using speech to text. Revised for typos as much as I could, but plz forgive any oversights.)


Reblogging for ALL the commentary. This is an important conversation.

spaceykate:

Tragically, I’m not involved with anyone who’d do this with me at the moment, but if you are, go sign up! I am personally of the opinion that being in one of Tobi’s movies gets you infinite cool points forever.

tobitastic:

Please help spread the word - we’re doing a second round of casting for the erotic documentary Doing it Again specifically looking to cast scenes of trans women with trans partners.  We’re looking for couples, friends, fuckbuddies, and individuals willing to be paired with someone - yes that includes trans men applying individually!

We’re specifically trying to get more submissions from:
* People of color
* People over 40
* Trans Men
* People in mid- or long-term relationships

Please see goo.gl/Haxiq for more details about dates, locations, payment, and what this entails.  To learn more about the project in general, see our (completed) kickstarter campaign here: http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/tobitastic/doing-it-again-in-depth

(If you’ve already applied before, please see the note at the top of the new casting call for what this means for you).


Rachel, I guess I have double infinite cool points, then? ;-)

ON POINT.

tobitastic:

So I was just writing something about tranny chasers and how the problem is about behavior not about desire.  I started listing the messed up assumptions they make about trans women.  Some of the worst ones include: “trans women are desperate enough to have no standards and whoever you are you only need to give a little flattery to get one to fuck you,” “trans women are more sexually open and willing to do the dirty things your cis girlfriend refuses to do,” “trans women are less likely to be feminist, assert boundaries, or get upset when you do something sexist,” “trans women don’t have other support structures to turn to and need you to fill that gap,” and so on.  Obviously some really horrible stuff which ultimately frames trans women as more manipulateable and easier targets for abusive behavior.  

Then I was thinking, I should write something about chasers who go after trans men.  The first assumptions that popped into my mind were: “trans men are more likely to understand cis women,” “trans men are more likely to be feminist,” “trans men are radical and revolutionary by existing,” “trans men know what they are talking about around social justice and politics,” “trans men are less likely to be violent or abusive,” “trans men are extra special men-lite.”  Hmm…  Okay, so I also came up with trans men are the ultimate power bottoms which is pretty icky, and I’m sure there are a few others I’m not thinking of right now.

All of these assumptions are pretty fucked up, even the “positive” assumptions. But ultimately, they seem like they’re on a different level here.  #transmisogyny

(via gadaboutgreen)

Yay! :) Signal-boost!

tobitastic:

Have you ever wanted to go to a play party in a trans women focused environment?  Do you want to see trans positive porn by Tobi Hill-Meyer and get a sneak peak of the in progress erotic documentary examining trans women’s relationships and hookup dynamics, Doing it Again?  Are you in the bay area or will be for the Trans Leadership Summit?

To help raise funds for the new documentary we’re throwing the event Doing it Together: Reclaiming Our Lens on November 10th.  Tickets will go on sale tomorrow morning (Oct 16th).  You can get more information and buy tickets for the screening, the play party, or both at http://Handbasket.brownpapertickets.com.

Please help spread the word to those you know who may be interested.  We’ve also got a few volunteer positions available.  If you’d like to volunteer, please email Luci@HandbasketProductions.com

It is Tobi’s birthday tomorrow — YAY! Please pitch some money & love towards her awesome new project (Doing It Again: In-Depth, a sort of documentary follow-up to Doing It Ourselves: The Trans Women Porn Project) and help her reach her fundraising goal for her birthday! Even just $5-$10 from enough people could make a big difference.

(And I’m so fucking glad you were born, dear.)