Gina

Hi there, I'm Gina.

This blog serves many purposes for me -- sharing new writing & works in progress, keeping in touch with old friends, making new friends, and keeping an eye on what's happening on the interwebs. But mostly? It's where I blow off steam from graduate school and talk about which David Bowie song is the queerest. ;)

If you wanna know more about me, check out my website for info about the work that I do in the world.

If you're here because you're a fan of my writing, I recommend checking out How To Have A Body for a peek at my current manuscript in progress.

Thanks for stopping by my little corner of the internet. Enjoy your stay.
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  • nemesissy:

    also, I have no idea how one can be triumphalist about cannabis legalisation when:

    a) it’s happened in two of the whitest states in the country

    b) there is no sign of an accompanying push to stop racial profiling/stop-and-frisk, drug testing as part of hiring/HR practises and welfare eligibility, mandatory minimum sentencing for other drugs, or

    c) to adopt needle exchange programs, safe injection sites, or any kind of supportive social services for people in recovery.


    ON POINT.

    Source: nemesissy
    • 4 weeks ago
    • 24 notes
    • #drugs
    • #drug war
    • #class
    • #race
    • #prison industrial complex
    • #word
    • #harm reduction
    24 Comments
  • How to Be a Contemporary Writer

    roxanegay:

    1. Read diversely.

    2. Write.

    3. See items 1 and 2.

    4. Accept that there is no one way to make it as a writer and that the definition of making it is fluid and tiered.

    5. Accept that sometimes literary success is political and/or about who you know and that’s not likely to change. Yes, celebrities are going to keep publishing terrible books. Yes, Lisa Rinna’s Starlit is an actual thing. I read the book and… I’m scarred. But. You’re not getting better as a writer, worrying about the system. 

    5a. If you’re a woman, writer of color or queer writer, there are probably more barriers. Know that. Be relentless anyway. Strive for excellence. Learn how to kick the shit out of those barriers. Don’t assume every failure is about your identity because such is not the case. 

    6. Accept that sometimes cream actually does rise to the top and hard, consistent work will eventually get noticed, maybe not in the way you envisioned, but some way, some how. 

    7. Understand the actual odds and learn to love the slush pile. The slush pile is not your enemy. It’s actually one of your best friends.The truth is that a significant percentage of the slush pile, which I prefer to call the submission queue, is absolutely terrible because people are lazy and will submit any old thing. If you can write a good sentence you are already heads and shoulders above most of what is found in submission queues. You’re not competing against 10,000 submissions a year a magazine receives. You’re competing against more like 200.  Those are still intimidating odds but they’re also far more reasonable.

    8. Be nice. The community is small and everyone talks. Being nice does not mean eating shit. Being nice does not mean kissing ass. Being nice just means treating others the way you would prefer to be treated. If you’re comfortable being treated like an asshole, then by all means. 

    9. Know that more often than not, editors have your best interests at heart. Stand up for your writing but be open to editorial suggestions. A good editor is giving you feedback in service of your writing.

    10. Ignore most of the atrocious writing advice that proliferates at such an alarming rate. 

    11. Stop listening to conspiracy theories about publishing. 

    12. Stop listening to doomsday predictions about publishing. 

    13. Don’t talk yourself out of the game by listening to conspiracy theories, doomsday predictions, and bad advice.

    14. Make note of the distinction between writing and publishing. They are two very different things.

    15. Know that you can get an agent through the mystically fearsome slushpile. It may be hard. It may take more time than you want but it can and does happen. I found my first agent through the slush pile. She’s great. My second agent found me because of essays I wrote. Sometimes people find agents at conferences, or through friends of a friend, or other such connections but you absolutely can go the old fashioned route.

    15a. Do your research. Know what agents are interested in. Spell their names correctly. Have a book you give a damn about and make sure it shows. Know how to talk about your book.

    15b. If you want to see a sample query letter, just ask a writer who successfully signed with an agent through the slush pile. They will probably share.

    15c. This is an interesting take on navigating the business of agents. 

    15d. But don’t be so discouraged! 

    16. You do not need to live in New York to be a writer, though New York is great (dirty bathrooms aside) and it might be better if you live elsewhere and visit New York for a few days at at time. 

    17. Perspective is everything. Someone getting a book deal is not taking yours away. Success is not as finite as it seems—it’s a matter of luck, timing, and hard work. (Or sometimes, yes, who you know).

    17a. You are neither as great or terrible a writer as you assume. 

    18. Know that sometimes you simply need to work harder and sometimes you’ve done the best you can do and there’s no shame in either.

    19. Participate in the literary community in the ways you are comfortable participating. What matters is that you contribute. That could be subscribing to a magazine, attending a reading, volunteering at a literary magazine, and so on. (See #8)

    20. Have an online presence or don’t. It’s shocking how much time writers spend stressing over this that could be spent writing. Yes, an online presence helps but only if you actually use it with some regularity. Plenty of writers don’t have a significant online presence and manage to still be writers. If you feel like having an online presence (Twitter, Facebook, Blog, Tumblr, whatever), is a pain in the ass, it’s going to show and it’s not worth having.

    21. If you’re going to have a website, don’t have an ugly website. There’s no excuse anymore. If you cannot afford a designer, no problem. Use a content management system like Wordpress or Tumblr and a nice template.

    22. You will probably need a job unless you’re fine with financial stress. Yes you can have a job and be a writer. It happens all the time. I used to be fine with financial stress because I was young and my fantasies were exciting. I am not anymore because I am old and I love my apartment and health insurance and buying stupid shit. A job facilitates these things so keep it in mind. There are worse things than a job.

    23. Learn to deal with rejection. You don’t have to like it. You can sulk and whine and cry. You can blog about it. Just know that publishing involves rejection far more than acceptance. It’s easier if you can process that early on. 

    23 a. Maybe don’t write editors who reject you to call them names. That doesn’t ever end well.

    24. Have other hobbies. Don’t be one of those people who only writes and can only talk about writing. My hobbies are embarrassing but I do have them and am grateful to have them.

    25. Ignore all of this as you see fit.

    Source: roxanegay
    • 1 month ago
    • 954 notes
    • #roxane gay
    • #word
    • #writing
    • #writer's life
    954 Comments
  • “

    Sex is not a goddamn performance.

    Sex should feel as natural as drinking water.

    It should not require confidence.

    Sex should happen, because the moment is ripe.

    Ripening lips, ripening labia, ripening cock, ripening pupils, ripening state of being. Ripe and augmented and brimming. Your energy goes to your pumping heart, then to every external nerve, then to theirs, on fire.

    You bask, roll, play in it. You sigh, moan, laugh.

    It’s not about being “good in bed.”

    It’s about being happy.

    One should never worry if they’re doing it “correctly.” Sex is not factual. I don’t want your cookie-cutter sex, I don’t want your meticulously crafted, calculated, fool-proof fuck. I don’t want a show. I want you. Let your instincts, urges and whims define that. It’s enough.

    What do most girls like? Forget about it. Statistics are meaningless when there’s only one. Hello, here’s me. Here’s you.

    Don’t worry about taking it too slow. We got time. We got infinite rhythms, combinations, possibilities. Explore each fuck. Take our time. We can do a different one later.

    Don’t worry about making me come. I’m here. Right where I want to be.

    I am overwhelmed by wanting; you don’t have to convince me. I want you because I like you. So don’t put on a front. Don’t taint this.

    I’m frustrated—it’s just authenticity I want.

    It’s originality.

    It’s passion.

    It’s joy.

    Don’t say that something I like is ugly. Don’t compare yourself to the rest. You will live and die with and within your experiences like everyone else. If someone thinks you are amazing, they are not wrong. Their universe is as real as any other; it is forged through perception.

    I don’t care if you accidentally slammed my head into the wall, if you slipped out, if my arm cracked, if the delightful pressure of your wet lips on my anything made a silly sound. There is no right way and no wrong way.

    “Good in bed,” what.

    You’re good in my bed. I’m pleased you’re there. I feel it suits you.

    Shove your technique. Let your memory swallow it. Fuck me like you’d fuck me, fuck me like you feel.

    This isn’t a test.

    ”
    —

    (via datingdisastersofaqueergirl)

    Source: nikolaiolivier
    • 2 months ago
    • 178138 notes
    • #WORD
    • #sex
    • #sex writing
    178138 Comments
  • this is how we do it!

    Just had a fantastic meeting with my advisor about my Thesis and How To Have A Body. I wanna say more but I’m also fussy & superstitious & private about things till they are set in stone.

    But suffice it to say: My pupils are like exclamation points right now. I feel like today’s beautiful & unexpectedly balmy February sun is shining Just For Me.

    Excuse me while I blast terrible 90s hip-hop and settle in to write some more. (Srsly, I am having to restrain myself from posting video clips from MTV Jams.)

    • 3 months ago
    • 3 notes
    • #writing
    • #this is how we do it
    • #gradskool
    • #personal life
    • #how to have a body
    • #mtv jams
    • #WORD
    • #the word
    • #writer's life
    • #hella embarrassing theme song du jour
    3 Comments
  • missgingerlee:

Exactly. 

    missgingerlee:

    Exactly. 

    (via fuckyeahhardfemme)

    Source: melt-the-ice
    • 11 months ago
    • 36711 notes
    • #word
    36711 Comments
  • “Me: “Shots of spiced rum are really good for clearing out your, um…”
    Jayvin: “Nose chakra!”
    Me: “Word, that’s like the…. eleventeenth chakra.”
    Jayvin: “You are so speaking truth to power.”
    — Two born & raised Californians make fun of California.
    • 1 year ago
    • 10 notes
    • #jayvin
    • #fluffy
    • #word
    • #friendlies
    • #california-styleeeee
    10 Comments
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