datingdisastersofaqueergirl:

The truly awesome thing about all these really petty gross anonymous messages is that this is VINDICATION after years of attractive partners and friends insisting that it is allll in my head that people get real real real mad that someone that looks like me gets mad hot ass.

I cannot tell you how many times I’ve said to a partner, “oh that girl over there is PISSED you’re with me” or “damn they are mean mugging the fuck out of me right now for being on your arm” and that partner has been like, “Are you sure that’s why?” or “they don’t look mad to me, they’re totally smiling at me!”

This is actually what fatphobia looks like in our community, folks. This is why I don’t go to parties. 

And actually, y’all almost had me convinced I was just crazy(er) and I was being oversensitive until one day, ONE BLESSED DAY, my skinny white trans husband and I were at some radical queer event and he leaned over to me and was like, “why does that girl in the black skirt keep glaring at you?” and I was like, “Oh my god. You see it too. I’m not making it up.” and it was ONE OF THE BEST DAYS OF MY LIFE because I FINALLY found someone who believed me and validated me. 

Anyway, stay mad y’all, cuz I’m not gonna stop dating people you think are too cute for me. Sorry for not being sorry.



EVERY WORD OF THIS. YES. I have gotten that exact same mean mug. This is, indeed, how fatphobia works in our community.