For the survivors in my life:
We are not just what our perpetrators or abusers or rapists did to us. We are still ourselves, even if we have survived horrible things, things that were in no way our fault or responsibility, things that should never happen to any human being.
Still. We are not what was done to us. We aren’t permanently stuck in the state of “things happening to us.”
I’m a writer, so this is the best way I know how to put it: We have agency and power and beauty and strength and resilience. But most importantly?
We get to write our lives in active voice.