Gina

Jul 22

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http://datingdisastersofaqueergirl.tumblr.com/post/92366280319/clawmage-so-far-ive-seen-southern -

clawmage:

so far i’ve seen southern, southwestern, and northeastern gothic, but nobody’s talked about how great MIDWESTERN GOTHIC could be. listen:

Like all mythology, that of the criminally bad Black mother spread through storytelling—lurid tales told with bitter resentment. Haven’t you heard the one about the jaywalking mother whose son was hit by a drunk driver? Surely you know all about the homeless mother who left her two children in the car during a job interview. And now there’s the McDonald’s mother who abandoned her daughter at the playground.

But what do these stories leave out? Our welfare system is designed to put everyone to work regardless of circumstance. Unfortunately, the low-wage jobs attainable for most mothers lead to a parental quagmire. Between low paychecks and inflexible work schedules, how is one to arrange for adequate child care? With no apparent options, the answer is often that they simply cannot.

Such women, it’s been repeated to you, are bad mothers who deserve to be punished, and increasingly we’re doing just that. Indeed, the mythology of bad Black mothers was never just a part of our cultural folklore—it’s entrenched in our legal system.

Over the last three decades, the population of incarcerated women has grown by over 800%, and women of color have been locked up at disproportionately high rates. African American women are three times more likely than White women to be thrown in jail or prison.

The justice system doles out particularly harsh punishments for infractions that relate to motherhood. Although pregnant Black and White women take drugs at similar rates, expecting Black mothers are 10 times more likely to be reported to child welfare for drug use, according to the Drug Policy Alliance.

Mandatory minimum sentencing has slowly eliminated judicial discretion and exacerbated the racial disparities. In addition, most child maltreatment laws and definitions of neglect are very vague, leaving room for prejudice based on race, class and gender to creep in. One in nine Black children have an incarcerated parent. Who stands to gain from this?

” —

Noah Remnick

Quote is from Debra Harrell and The Mythology of Bad Black Mothers in The Los Angeles Times. Though she is out of jail now, she was subsequently fired from her job and her daughter remains in state custody. @prisonculture shared a link for a fundraiser for her at You Caring.

I am fascinated (as in repulsed) by the people pretending to care about the well-being of her daughter—by ignoring all of the structural inequalities and lack of options for Debra—suggesting that she could’ve been kidnapped playing at the busy child park. If they care then they must care about the structural problems that lead to lack of options. And if they care, then they have a funny way of showing it since when Black girls and even adult Black women go missing, there is less concern, less media coverage and often they are marked off as “runaways.” So now Black girls are capable of being taken? I know Harrell was in a bind that poverty creates and even those all about bootstraps magically have no answer for the fact that McDonald’s fired her because they don’t pay her enough to afford childcare. And she worked

Take a look at Black Feminist Thought: Knowledge, Consciousness, and the Politics of Empowerment by Patricia Hill Collins; she goes further than this article did as to how the mythology of the “inherently” bad Black mother came about and how it unironically co-exists with the “thoughtful mammy” who raises any children (especially White ones) “well,” except her own. Critical read. 

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Jul 21

I believe in exemplary service. I take pride in a job well done.

So, I was, like, really enjoying this song on Pandora… And then dude had to use a really tired, old serophobic trope in the second verse, in which poz people were basically used as metaphors for, like, the decline of strong empowered communities and the revolution? Which is ugh and stupid and thoroughly, deeply offensive for so many reasons? One of the biggest being: O.M.G., THAT IS THE FUCKING OPPOSITE OF HOW IT ACTUALLY WORKS! Like, hilariously so!

Important caveat: The above paragraph is NOT meant to try to lay some equally problematic supercrip trip/trope on positive people. But, like, Real Talk: I have learned A WHOLE FUCKING LOT about community and care-taking and building chosen family from the PWH/As in my life (I esp. learned a lot as a queer youth doing organizing in SF in the 90s — those lessons have stayed with me!). Building solidarity and connection and networks of care between disabled and chronically ill folks who do not have HIV and HIV positive folks is a thing that is important to me and a thing I think about lot. And using people with chronic illnesses and disabilities as metaphors — whether they’re poz or not — is just fucking gross.

Jul 20

Seeking PNW & East Coast Crash Pads!

Happy update! I’ve just secured a house-sit in Seattle for the month of August! I’m still absolutely seeking Portland and East Coast crash pads for September & October, however. Lemme know if you can help a girl out? <3 & thanks!

queershoulder:

Hello there, dear friends & comrades,

As some of you know, I’ve recently hit up against some hard times. I’ve decided to sublet my apartment in San Francisco and go travelling starting in early August. Renting out my studio and travelling outside of San Francisco is much cheaper than actually living in San Francisco right now, so I am trying to use that to my advantage. There is a lot to be said for making lemons into lemonade!

I will be starting my travels by leaving town on a road trip with a dear friend August 3rd. My travelling buddy will be dropping me off in the Pacific Northwest (probably in either Portland or Seattle – see more about that in a second) somewhere around August 5th-6th. From there, my schedule is fairly open-ended.

My current plan is to spend August and the first half of September in the Pacific Northwest (cities I would really love to visit include Portland, Seattle, Olympia, and Vancouver BC), and the second half of September and October on the East Coast (cities I would really love to visit include NYC, Boston, Philadelphia, and Montreal). That said, how I plan my travel largely depends upon where & when I can find crash pads. If you or someone you know might be able to help me out with this, please let me know!

Important details:

1)   I am very interested in hearing about pet-sit and house-sit possibilities in all of the aforementioned cities during the aforementioned months! PNW folks: Do any of you need pet-sitters or house-sitters in August or September? East Coast folks: Do any of you need pet-sitters or house-sitters in September or October? I currently live alone and I love it, so I am especially interested in hearing about pet/house-sits in studios & one-bedrooms.

For the purposes of this trip, a room in a (quiet, chill, clean, adult, queer & trans & kink & sex worker & disability & fat-friendly) group house would also be great! I will note here, though, that especially because I am travelling as a cost-saving measure, this will mostly be a working trip for me. I will be spending the vast majority of my time doing freelance writing and grant-writing assignments, and editing the second draft of How To Have A Body (my manuscript in progress). Translation: If I am staying in your house, I will be erring on the quiet/chill/possibly even kinda boring side. ;) I’m probably best suited to living with folks who are equally quiet/chill/possibly even kinda boring.

2)   Barring pet/house-sits: Do any of you have guest rooms, or enough room to entertain a guest? Would you be down to host a sweet, tidy, chill, big-Italian-meal-cooking, roamin’ queer writer for a spell? I need an Actual Bed and/or a fold-out couch/futon and/or a not-likely-to-deflate air mattress due to disability/chronic pain stuff (I just can’t sleep on regular couches or floors any more) – but I’m otherwise quite open.

3)   Barring pet/house-sits & guest rooms: Are any of you aware of CHEAP sublets in or nearby the cities I listed above? As I said, I am travelling on an extremely tight budget, but if you happen to have a cheap room to sublet, I’d love to hear about it. I would be especially excited to rent from friends, or friends of friends.

Please feel free to pass this along to potentially interested friends, and do let me know if you have any resources to throw my way. I’m reachable at queershoulder[at]gmail[dot]com.

Any way it goes, I really hope we get to hang out when I am in your town!

<3 & thanks bunches,
Gina

a welcome surprise

pinebark:

maybe it’s because i’ve seen the shitty excesses of movement atheism firsthand but i can’t handle philosophy freshman level antitheism. like i get that a lot of queers have a lot of reasons to be upset about religion but fuck this shit is so boring

queers are just as bad about this whole ‘my beliefs rule and urs are dumb’ thing sometimes but we cloak it in like irony and shit. really often smacks of racism/classism too?

like lol i can’t believe u believe in sky god shit *goes back to casting spells and obsessing over crystals*

“By the 6th grade I stopped doing ordinary things in front of people. It had been ordinary to sing, kids are singing all the time when they are little, but then something happens. It’s not that we stop singing. I still sang. I just made sure I was alone when I did it. And I made sure I never did it accidentally. That thing we call ‘bursting into song.’ I believe this happens to most of us. We are still singing, but secretly and all alone.” — Lynda Barry, What It Is (via constellation-funk)

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Jul 19

Seeking PNW & East Coast Crash Pads!

Hello there, dear friends & comrades,

As some of you know, I’ve recently hit up against some hard times. I’ve decided to sublet my apartment in San Francisco and go travelling starting in early August. Renting out my studio and travelling outside of San Francisco is much cheaper than actually living in San Francisco right now, so I am trying to use that to my advantage. There is a lot to be said for making lemons into lemonade!

I will be starting my travels by leaving town on a road trip with a dear friend August 3rd. My travelling buddy will be dropping me off in the Pacific Northwest (probably in either Portland or Seattle – see more about that in a second) somewhere around August 5th-6th. From there, my schedule is fairly open-ended.

My current plan is to spend August and the first half of September in the Pacific Northwest (cities I would really love to visit include Portland, Seattle, Olympia, and Vancouver BC), and the second half of September and October on the East Coast (cities I would really love to visit include NYC, Boston, Philadelphia, and Montreal). That said, how I plan my travel largely depends upon where & when I can find crash pads. If you or someone you know might be able to help me out with this, please let me know!

Important details:

1)   I am very interested in hearing about pet-sit and house-sit possibilities in all of the aforementioned cities during the aforementioned months! PNW folks: Do any of you need pet-sitters or house-sitters in August or September? East Coast folks: Do any of you need pet-sitters or house-sitters in September or October? I currently live alone and I love it, so I am especially interested in hearing about pet/house-sits in studios & one-bedrooms.

For the purposes of this trip, a room in a (quiet, chill, clean, adult, queer & trans & kink & sex worker & disability & fat-friendly) group house would also be great! I will note here, though, that especially because I am travelling as a cost-saving measure, this will mostly be a working trip for me. I will be spending the vast majority of my time doing freelance writing and grant-writing assignments, and editing the second draft of How To Have A Body (my manuscript in progress). Translation: If I am staying in your house, I will be erring on the quiet/chill/possibly even kinda boring side. ;) I’m probably best suited to living with folks who are equally quiet/chill/possibly even kinda boring.

2)   Barring pet/house-sits: Do any of you have guest rooms, or enough room to entertain a guest? Would you be down to host a sweet, tidy, chill, big-Italian-meal-cooking, roamin’ queer writer for a spell? I need an Actual Bed and/or a fold-out couch/futon and/or a not-likely-to-deflate air mattress due to disability/chronic pain stuff (I just can’t sleep on regular couches or floors any more) – but I’m otherwise quite open.

3)   Barring pet/house-sits & guest rooms: Are any of you aware of CHEAP sublets in or nearby the cities I listed above? As I said, I am travelling on an extremely tight budget, but if you happen to have a cheap room to sublet, I’d love to hear about it. I would be especially excited to rent from friends, or friends of friends.

Please feel free to pass this along to potentially interested friends, and do let me know if you have any resources to throw my way. I’m reachable at queershoulder[at]gmail[dot]com.

Any way it goes, I really hope we get to hang out when I am in your town!

<3 & thanks bunches,
Gina